Archive for August, 2009

What Attracts Women – The Hidden Secret to Getting Her to Feel for You

Monday, August 31st, 2009

Attracting women as of recent has grown to be some what of a science. It really is but a number of males don't look at it in that way especially for a few select males who are just naturals. This leaves the remainder of us who may well need to have the "What attracts women" science broken down for us.

Women are attracted to men who are alpha male type. Guys who are self-confident and who don't really worry about the outcome of things but who really live in the moment type of guys. There is something about this type of guy that really draws a woman in.

Women aren't attracted to men who try to hard or appear to be trying too hard. They also don't want the guy that tries to come off as just being their friend. If you really merely desire to be acquaintances with her then by all means use this approach but if you wish to date her or to become intimate with her stay away from the friend approach.

Another thing that women go crazy for is a guy who can keep them intrigued. Curiosity is a substantial draw in for a woman so don't give away the whole farm when first meeting or talking with a woman. Leave her wondering, for example don't tell her where you work or what you drive or even where you live on the initial conversation. What you do instead is be sarcastic and say things like "I drive a junker...what do you drive?" or "I live in the alley out back...it gets cold at night do you have some extra blankets?". You get the picture here. Be sarcastic in a fun way.

By no means try to substantiate your social worth to a woman as it shows lack of self-confidence. This goes along with the being mysterious initially. Let her know that if she REALLY wants to know who you are she is gonna have to stick around and earn a ticket to the movie called "Your Life" and smile. Be cocky, be fun but don't be a jerk as this is certainly not what attracts women.

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Alpha Confidence for Guys and Girls – How To Re-Train Your Dating Mindset

Friday, August 28th, 2009

I recently read an article from Carlos Xuma talking about dating inner game – and the fears and problems that go along with dating, in general, for BOTH men and women. The interesting this is, the fears and problems that men and women have with dating are similar – but not the same, just as what attracts women to men is not the same as what attracts men to women.

When it all boils down, it seems that most of the biggest fears men have are centered around (whether they know it or not) being a capable alpha male, having an alpha personality while women’s are centered around being an able and acceptable mate. (Now, ladies, don’t bludgeon me to death – what I mean is women seem to be more worries about being found acceptable and finding emotional common-ground than men are!)

Here is the list of the 5 biggest fears for Men and Women in dating:

WOMEN’S BIGGEST DATING FEARS:
1. She is not physically or sexually attractive to him (Acceptance)
2. She is not able to foster an emotional connection with him (Retention)
3. She will not get a commitment from him (Retention)
4. She will lose an emotional connection if she DOES connect with him (Retention)
5. She will be left behind for another woman (Retention)

MEN'S BIGGEST DATING FEARS:
1. He will experience rejection or embarrassment (He does not understand what attracts women to men)
2. He will give up his freedom if he does form a connection (He does not understand the alpha personality)
3. He will be seen as unsuccessful or unable to provide for her (alpha male Fears)
4. He will not satisfy her sexually (alpha male Fears)
5. He will not understand her emotions (He does not understand the alpha personality)

So, in looking at these dating fears, we can see a big difference in what men and women think – and we can also see that fear in dating is perfectly natural, and prevalent on BOTH sides of the coin.

Men seem to fear being inadequate in more ways than one – not being able to fulfill her sexual needs, not being able to attract her pr provide for her, not understanding the woman-speak of emotions and emotional needs. Men’s fears seem to center more around alpha behaviors – attracting her, sexually satisfying her, etc – and whether or not they will be able to fulfill these portions of the “dating contract”. If men understood the characteristics of the alpha personality, they would alleviate MANY of these fears easily.

Women, on the other hand, seem to be more afraid of acceptance and retention of a mate – such as not being attractive (thus not selected), not being able to get a commitment, losing her connection, etc. these fears center more around her ability to keep the man she attracts rather than the initial attraction. If a woman understood the concepts of what attracts women to men and vice-versa, they would feel better about this as well.

If you look closely, though, it really seems to fit the same old stereo-type – women need emotional security and men need to feel they can complete the role of the leader and provider.

Go figure!

So – what is one great dating tip that can help EITHER sex take a deep breath and flow more positively and confidently into the role they want? Carlos Xuma calls it “Pause Conditioning”.

Interesting. What he means is this – in the moment that you are in – in the moment of interaction where you feel yourself responding to a stimulus with a knee-jerk reaction that reflects a defensive or unconscious response….

PAUSE.

Here are some examples for men….

-You approach a woman and she does not acknowledge your presence immediately.
What do you do? Do you get immediately embarrassed and walk away and ignore her, or do you…pause…take a deep breath and realize that perhaps she needs a greater attractive opening than you have given her? Perhaps you need to change your approach a little, tweak it to succeed.
-You order a drink for a woman but she seems to only accept it because she is being polite.
What do you do? Do you tell her see you later and walk away with your face on fire? Or do you change your game up a bit and start on the Cocky Comedy and try to spark the attraction?
-You have a sexual experience with a woman and she does not seem fulfilled.
What do you do? Do you never call her again because you are embarrassed, or do you dive in with gusto, taking charge, listening to her body language and showing her passion and the male dominance that women crave in the bedroom?

Keep in mind, men, that if you were to educate yourself about alpha male characteristics, you could blow these fears out of the water easily!

Here are a few examples for women….

-You are with a guy and he looks at another woman.
Do you immediately call him a snake and smack him with your purse, or get angry? Or do you realize that men are visual creatures, take a deep breath and pull out a few attractive tricks of your own from your personal arsenal?
-You feel your man is withdrawn and pulling away.
Do you get clingy and needy trying to evoke his protective response, or do you lean back a little and allow him to come to you when he is ready?
-You are flirting with a guy and he starts coming on to you sexually
Do you respond in kind because you really like him, or do you re-asses your situation and realize that just maybe immediate gratification is not what you NEED in a relationship?

For any of these situations, and a million more that come up in everyday life, if you can train yourself to PAUSE and take a few moments to reflect before you react, you will train yourself to think before you act, and to take actions, then, that are MUCH more along the lines of what YOU want to accomplish in your life.

This goes for dating, relationships, and ANY arena that you are involved in. For men, this is a KEY alpha-male characteristics, leading to calm, logical decisions and not knee-jerk fight or flight responses. For women, it is the same – alpha-female characteristics that lead to mature, lasting relationships full of love with a man who realizes that he has a rare gem on his hands.

When girls jewelry boxes would make wonderful gifts…

Thursday, August 27th, 2009

Getting the products I needed for the ceremony and reception required some thought, but as I turned my attention to getting a present for my bridesmaids, it dawned on me that I had a long ways to go yet. The perfect gift for them was hard to find. I saw all kinds of possiblities for wedding favors for bridesmaids and wedding guests on the Internet. Trying to select just the right one is where it got difficult. There were also a lot of great deals on thank you gifts that I found at a discount. I got a really good deal on a wedding set that had a ring bearer pillow, a flower girl basket, a guest book, a pen, and eight pieces in total. That was a big savings. Instead of having to buy each piece separately, I was able to purchase it all together at a great low price.
I was just browsing through possible thank you presents when I finally came across something the women standing up for my wedding would like: a beautifully adorned jewelry box. As I looked, I discovered a variety of high-quality wedding jewelry boxes. The choices for what to get my bridesmaids were so many that I finally just went back to planning the rest of the wedding because my head was spinning. I still had to get supplies and accessories for the reception even though the wedding ceremony was all but taken care of. I didn’t have my wedding cake topper yet, nor did I have the wedding favors for my friends and family, so that’s where I went next. I opted for a bride and groom salt and pepper shaker set and a bottle opener made to look like doves that had a beautiful chrome finish. Normally, I would have gotten some containers for the chrome openers, but the boxes they came in were so adorable that I just went with those. My fiance got his groomsmen a nice little stainless steel flask and a multi tool gadget that has just about everything from a pair of pliers to a bottle opener.
We got a figurine of a bride and groom holding each other to put at the top of our cake. I looked at several different styles, and almost bought the monogram cake topper with silver brushed initials and crystals, but I fell for the embracing couple instead. I had put it off while I took care of buying the rest of the supplies we’d need, but it was time at last to select a gift for the women standing up in my wedding. They each got cheap jewelry boxes, and inside of it was some unique wedding jewelry. I chose a beautiful rhinestone bracelet for all of them. It was just perfect for them even though it probably sounds like a bit much. The volume of options in discount wedding jewelry was so great, and so good, that I got them some of that and saved a little cash in the process. I also got a some pearl wedding jewelry for myself, and wore it in my wedding ceremony. The quality of the jewelry is top-notch, and the prices are deeply discounted. The women in our wedding were elated with what I got them, and the men seemed pretty content with their thank you presents, too.
It turned out to be the best day of my life and we all had such a great time at the reception. My single sister caught the bouquet and my brother in law was the winner at the garter toss. Is it just coincidence, or is it fate? If they did get together and someday took the plunge, he would still be my brother in law, but my sister would also be my sister in law too. Anything is possible!

Moms, do you have a right to be Sexy AND Beautiful, or is that just SELFISH?

Wednesday, August 26th, 2009

The right to be sexy and beautiful as a mother, is an issue which women have had to fight for, for quite a while now. It seems that most people see sexy as meaning slutty and beauty as meaning selfish. Is it possible to combine beauty with sexy, and to have that be a good thing, or is that taboo?

As mothers, we're all raised to be nurturers and to look out for everyone else around us. Generally, we feel a sense of pride in multi-tasking and being seen as the “go to” woman, and we hardly ever find time to really take care of ourselves - and if we make the time, we always feel guilty. Yet we are also told by society that beautiful women are desired and receive considerable amounts of attention. Throughout our lives, we're taught that beauty is good and evil, and that sexy is always desirable and sinful. So, even if we're striving to care for ourselves, and to feel truly beautiful and sexy, we're constantly overwhelmed with conflicting ideas and impossible expectations from society. Just take a look at the confusing portrait we see of women, and the ideal of perfection which women are expected to achieve. “Be a martyr, be a saint, be beautiful and sexy - no you can’t, you’re a mom. How could you even think of putting yourself first, don’t you love your children? If you don’t look after yourself, your husband will want other women. Have you given up, and accepted to role of frumpy mom for the rest of your life? How long is it going to take you to lose that baby weight - the celebrities do it in just 5 days,” and the painful comparisons go on and on. Confused? Overwhelmed? Tired? Of course you are!

Society tells us that if we're sexy, we'll be wanted and desired, but if we allow ourselves to be simply an object of pure physical desire, we won't be respected, and this can hurt like nothing else. Society shows us that we need to be sexy and beautiful for everyone else, but never for ourselves. And this ladies, is where the ENTIRE problem originates - being beautiful and sexy for everyone else, and never for yourself. Truly inspired coaching for women can change everything!

So how do you get past the self-criticism and expectations of society? The first thing to do is to define what sexy and beautiful mean to you. Napoleon Hill tells us that when you mix Sex and Love you create calmness, and that when they’re together they soften and beautify. Every woman has a different way of expressing sexy once she finally taps into what that "looks like" to her. Beauty means something different to every woman. How do you express beauty? When do you feel beautiful and sexy internally and externally? These are the true questions you must be asking yourself.

Now, if you’re a mother…ohhhh the mother guilt will kick your #$@ if you let it. Please don’t let it, start by beginning to realize the amazing expression of love and beauty you can teach your daughter - and your son, for that matter. Being sexy is a beautiful thing, and a true expression of self-love. Being intimate with yourself first, so you can then be intimate with others, is a true gift and a true source of femininity.

Sexy and Love are magnetically combined, and you deserve them BOTH!

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Women’s Perfumes And How They Are Marketed

Sunday, August 23rd, 2009

It seems like every famous person out there has their personal perfume or fragrance these days. I don’t understand if it’s that they think they have something special to present to the world, or if it’s simply an ego enhancement to seize their “signature scent.” Just understand that if you plan to purchase a celebrity perfume, that you pay for the quality of the scent and not just the celeb name attached.

Make certain that any women's fragrances you purchase compliment your body chemistry. Just because it smells fantastic on J. Lo doesn’t suggest that it will suit you as well. Jennifer Lopez has had so much success with her perfumes that she has created a number of them. Still, Glow, Live and Deseo are just a a small number of them. Celine Dion is another icon who has done very well producing and marketing a perfume by her own name. Britney Spears’ Curious has also been pretty fashionable as well along with Midnight Fantasy, Believe, and Fantasy.

One of the latest women's fragrances on the market that has become gradually more all the rage is Sean John’s Unforgivable. It’s not often that a man can develope a perfume that appeals to women as well. Mariah Carey has two fragrances offered, but M is preferred over Luscious Pink. Intimately Beckham for Women by David and Victoria Beckham is a pretty hot floral fragrance that has gained popularity over the past year.

Younger girls have gone wild over Hilary Duff’s With Love perfume. It’s very girly and womanly. Paris Hilton has also released many of fragrances, but it all began with her signature scent suitably named, Paris Hilton. Heiress and Can Can are also extremely fashionable. For the edgier, punk rocker chick, Gwen Stefani does not fail with her L Lamb and Harajuku Lovers.

Probably the absolute number one top selling celebrity perfume is Lovely, by Sarah Jessica Parker. The name just says it all -- positively lovely. SJP followed that up with another popular perfume, Covet.

Obviously, there are plenty of scents that are completely eternal. They will never go out of fashion. Celebrities come and go; fame fades, but Chanel lives on forever! Estee Lauder has been a top seller of fragrances since the 1950s! Givenchy by Michael Hy has also been around for decades. Amor Amor by the Design House of Cacharel has only been around since 2003, but is a top seller nonetheless.

It seems that many of the top fragrances are floral in nature, but many include notes of musks, woods, fruits, or spice. Your fragrances may change as you age and depending on the time of day (or month!), your mood, or the event that you are attending, but choosing a “signature scent” is a significant decision. When there’s no unique occasion, this will be you. Your perfume. If it’s with the help of a celeb, great! If it’s a everlasting selection that always in vouge, fantastic! Just make sure that whatever women's perfume they are, you love then and they loves you.

Why marriage becomes a curse in life?

Saturday, August 22nd, 2009

In the eyes of many people, life after marriage can either be a blessing or a curse depending on the course path you have defined in pursuing it; meaning that you define your heaven or hell yourself. Have you pondered on what basis your life after marriage becomes heaven or hell? Or a blessing or a curse?

There are so many reasons for marriage in society today. If you ask most single people whether they want to get married, they will reply that they do, when the time comes. It is because they realize there are good reasons to find someone to settle with in life. The first and most recognized reason for marriage is love. When people find each other and fall in love, the greatest thing to do is get married. But nowadays marriage becomes a curse in life.Compel women to be attracted to you. Learn formulas to attract women so that finally women will approach you. Tactics guaranteed to boost confidence! Click dating secret.

It is so much easier to place blame on someone else then accept personal responsibility. The fact is that two people inhabit all marriages. Those two people are co-creators of their marriage and their divorce. Even if one of the partners was unfaithful or a liar, there are always signs along the way that we either refused to see or to acknowledge.

A defective, unhealthy, but common, belief that causes depression and a lot of marriage problems is when you judge your self-worth by other people's opinion of you. When you receive a compliment, you feel good about yourself; when you are criticized, you feel rotten.

Some marriages fail, some succeed, and some just seem to linger along somewhere in between. A man and a woman join together in union to spend the rest of their lives in happiness and eternal bliss. Unfortunately, not all marriages are in perfect bliss; many are annulled by the church. Many factors determine why the divorce rate in this country is so high and does not seem see a decline anytime soon.

The change of what someone is used to is a big factor. For a person to move away from their home and to get comfortable to a new home could be very difficult. This could leave to nervous tensions and irritability; thus, tough situations in a marriage. A newly wed couple should find a place that they should find comfortable for them. Why do men run away from love? Here's how to know if he's lost attraction for you, and how to avoid the common mistakes that make good men leave, click online dating advice.

Many factors influence the ending of a marriage. That could possibly be why over fifty percent of marriages end. There are factors ranging from: abuse, drugs, money, cheating, and the lack of love. Reasons of which could be the lack of time that a couple spends with each other and that they rush into marriage without realizing what is ahead of them.

Important Tips To Follow When Shopping For Girls’ Shoes For All Occasions

Wednesday, August 19th, 2009

It doesn't depend what the occasion is, there are various shoes to suit every day. There are lots of different kinds of shoes, of which there are thousands of individual designs each. The 5 main types of ladies's shoes are : athletic, casual, sandals, dress, and boots. Girls shoes are the main item in a girls's outfit.

For athletic women, there are all kinds of special shoes delineated by kind of sport or activity. An adventure shoe is also another style of shoe. This type of athletic shoe is one thatis easily employed in many demanding activities.

Womens joggingshoes are made for ideal performance.Each different sport has a different women's shoe. The different activites / sports that you can get shoes for are : walking, golfing, bowling, soccer, hiking and basketball. Each sort of shoe has its own unique features.

As an example, golfing shoes have softer cleats designed for today's modern golfing courses. The planning of the shoes worn for this sport is geared to keeping one from falling on the slippery lanes when bowling. The special ladies's shoes for water sports will allow water to drain from shoes.

The facets of women's shoes of casual type coincide with some of the attributes of women's shoes of different types. When it comes to casual wear in foot wear, many women wear ballet residences. These womens shoes can be warn for a dressy occasion, including a wedding. Some girls wear the same shoes for active wear as they do casual.

In the category of ladies's shoes, you'll find canvas, ship and t-strap shoes, residences and loafers, to name just a couple. Designer shoes are well-liked by women in the business world. There are special women's shoes for nurses or other types of employees. Other preferred shoes are espadrilles and wedge ones. Womens dress shoes must always go with the outfit of choice.

Another form of feminine shoes include sandals. All terrain sandals are one of those totally practical kinds. Others are dress sandals or designer sorts of sandals. There are a wide selection of options to include sandals with multiple straps, thongs, and your basic flip flops. Even though theyare tricky to wear, many ladies like platform shoes. There are wedge shoes that are sandals. Learn more about shoes for all occasions here.

Must Have Accessories For Career-Oriented Women

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

Career-oriented women are never without their personal items; which is essential for them to look for an accessory where they can store it all in and stay organized in their profession. The only problem with this scenario is that women need accessories that are fashionable, yet maintaining a professional air. Let's face it; you will never see a professional woman lug around a plain black bag without feeling out of place.

Here are some accessories that women should have; while making sure that they stay with the latest fashion trend to be successful and attractive in the professional world.

Stylish Women's Wallet

Men can get away with only a simple wallet, but not women. Career-oriented women should always pick out the most stylish wallet in the market while maintaining a practical design to store your money in, as well as other important items, like credit cards, business cards, and so on.

There are plenty of Women's wallet designs available today and you have the option of picking out a simple pouch to a more stylish and professional executive wallet. Colors of these wallets are carefully picked to suit a professional theme, such as red, pink, or light-tinged brown leather.

Look For The Right Briefcase

A briefcase is a must have for any women and should pick out the right item to fit all your important items and documents; as well as making sure that the style fits perfectly with your chosen fashion statement. briefcase for women are sleek, comfortable, and stylish -- unlike the boring black leather usually made for men.

Most of these are sold in leather, yet colors vary from lighter hues of pink to a darker reddish scheme. You have the option to pick out from the selections of laptop bags, flap-cover carry alls, a tote bag, leather portfolio, or a stylish briefcase -- a unique look added to your profession.

Personalize Your Desk Items

Professional women should have a care in picking out items for their work desks. Sticking to leather sets sold in many stores or online shops today doesn’t mean that the available style would fit your taste. One such item that requires your thorough attention is letter openers. Letter openers with silver or leather handles should fit professional women best; though it is possible to have them customized or engraved with your initial on them to make it more unique.

Career-oriented women should be careful when they accessorize. Aside from its basic use; one should consider the design since modern society expects them to look professional, while maintaining a fashionable air about them.

Get The Best Ring Bearer Gifts For The Young Ones

Saturday, August 15th, 2009

Giving your groomsmen or bridesmaid a gift is easy since there are plenty of selections to choose from. ring bearer gifts can be a bit challenging since it needs to be formal to fit the occasion, as well as interesting enough for the kids. You need to consider what gifts would be perfect for your ring bearer -- something that they can use and enjoy, while leaving an impression of this wonderful occasion.

Consider The Selections Carefully

Keep in mind that your ring bearer is an important member of your entourage and should be given due rewards for being a part of this momentous occasion. Giving them a card, money, or just a simple token is not enough to give them the impression of being part of the group -- it has to be something special, an item that will put a smile to their faces.

When picking out an item as a present for your ring bearer; the first thing that should come to your mind is both for use and play. Let's face it; kids these days are more concerned with toys, accessories, or any item that they can have fun with. It's no use giving them a flask or a mug since they are too young to get any use out of it. Among the selections available under the category of ring bearer gifts, the most that stand out is Swiss pocket watch and laser pointers.

Prepare Him For The Future

An interesting gift to give your ring bearer is a Swiss pocket watch. It is an item that they can show-off to their friends and families, as well as giving him something to use everyday. Aside from being used as his personal timekeeper, they can use it as a stylish keychain or add to their collection of important items that they can use when they grow up. You can also have it personalized by having it engraved with their initials on the back; something that would give them the impression that the item is theirs alone.

Another item you can give them that should put a smile to their faces are laser pointers. This is one of the perfect choices of ring bearer gifts since they can be the perfect toy for a very active youngster, especially when they use it to capture the attention people around them; or you can give them a good use out of it by purchasing one that shows the time every time they switch it on.

Buying a gift for your ring bearer doesn’t have to be hard and expensive. Just keep in mind that you are rewarding them for carrying the symbol of your love to your partner and they should be rewarded with an item that they can use in the future, as well as something they will enjoy their time with.

Go for the Person Who Makes You Feel Right, Not Just Someone who Looks Right

Wednesday, August 12th, 2009

Books, movies, and even self-help books have provided us with tips and suggestions on how to find the man of our dreams. We are informed that oftentimes, the quest for Mr. Right is challenging - and women always need to be careful for bad intentions are always concealed in silver platters.

So how do you know then that the person you’re with has the potential of being Mr. Right? As there will never be a definite answer to such a inquiry, looking for the following qualities would more often than not, lead you to your Prince Charming:

1. Someone who is confident about himself
Find someone who is at ease about his life - his job, his earnings, his relationships. He doesn’t have to be the richest man in the world who constantly showers you with designer Women's Wallets. What’s important is that he is confident that he can make things happen, that he can make you happy. When your man has this characteristic, then you will be sure that he will never run away from responsibility - that he will take good care of you.

2. Someone whom you can talk to
Movies and books have said it: a relationship is not just about romance and passion. It is not just about soppy love letters and elegant letter openers; not just about bouquets and romantic nights. It is important that you must be able to talk to your mind - confide in him. When you’re old and grey, passion dissolves, but companionship ties you together.

3. Someone who can tolerate you
Everyone has tantrums and mishaps every once in a while. Thus, your man should have extraordinary patience and understanding for you (he doesn’t need to extend this kind of courtesy to others though). For instance, your man should be able to tolerate why in the middle of the night, you need to get to the office carrying your briefcase for women. He should be able to understand that sometimes, your job would demand so much from you. More importantly, your man should be able deal with your little quirkiness, your little tantrums.

There’s no sure and definite way of knowing whether the person is the right one for you. Sometimes, you misread the signs. But as what the folks say, find someone who can love you more than you can love yourself. That way, you are certain that you will be taken care of - come rain or shine, come hell or high water.