OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You've uploaded a good picture and now you're going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don't have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this weird lady actually is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It might be nice if ladies wore labels like "Gold Digger" or "Daddy's girl"....but they don't so it's down to you to find these things out and you can not just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and the way to affect this lady if you decide you wish to do that.
After you are past the opening tiny talk, ask her, "What are the most terrible mistakes men make when dating online?" Listen fastidiously to her answers. She's going to tell you a lot about herself and her perspectives on men in general.
Next you must ask her, "What do you actually think about online dating?" Now she will tell you if she's had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making similar things wrong.
After That try to determine her tolerance for risk. This is really true if {you're|you are] an entrepreneur or run a home business as varying risk tolerance levels can spell disaster for a relationship.
Now for the all-important one....."What caused the break up in your last relationship?" If she puts all the blame on the man, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you must probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn't right for either of them, you have heard the right answer. Move on but always with caution.
Asking the most relevant questions will give you discernment and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.